Still Struggling After Newborn Class
Please remember that the newborn class is NOT sleep training. We are simply laying a foundation for sleep. Success is so much bigger than how naps went yesterday or how long the baby slept last night.
Here are a few things to consider if you’re struggling:
- Rewatch the Will I Ever Sleep Again? course videos for Tips 5 and 7. These tips are specifically aimed at helping you to work on the skills of falling asleep more independently and gently stretching night sleep. They can really help you as you work toward better nights. Remember, these techniques take time and patience. Focus on taking baby steps.
- Carefully consider the "Troubleshooting Checklist" in your course downloads. Walk through each question.
- Are you swaddling arms in and snug? Tip 1 can be helpful to revisit if swaddling is difficult. (If you’re using an arms-up swaddle, consider changing swaddles. We do see some babies struggle with arms up.)
- Is it time to drop the dream feed? Perhaps adding one will help? Read our blog post to learn more about the Dream Feed and how it can help.
- If you’re struggling with short naps, be sure to read the blog on Short Naps and Newborns and watch the “Bonus: Short Naps” video in your course between Tip 6 and Tip 7.
- Please make sure your little one is truly awake before intervening in the night. This video shows how a cry in the night doesn't necessarily mean your baby is awake:
- This highlighted story may also give you some direction and encouragement
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Watch this sweet baby. 👶 Guess what?!?! He's actually asleep! 😳 Yes, he lets out a cry...a really BIG cry! Keep watching! He’s completely asleep! - If we were in a dark room and asleep next to him, we'd probably assume he was awake. Most likely, we'd reach for him right away. Guess what that would do? WAKE HIM from this very light stage of sleep. 😱 - Did you know that French parents are taught to allow "La Pause" before they intervene with a crying baby in the night? "La Pause" is a 5 minute time where they stop, wait, and observe. They determine if the baby is truly awake or just transitioning between sleep cycles. The result: most of their babies are sleeping through the night by a few months of age. - Personally, I think 5 minutes is too long for a newborn, but what if we gave him 30-60 seconds to see if he is ACTUALLY awake before we unnecessarily intervene? - Let's discuss the science...Babies spend a large portion of their sleep time in “active sleep," a light sleep state characterized by fluttering eyelids; rapid, irregular breathing; occasional body movements; and noises like grunts or brief cries. - "Active sleep" is similar to our R.E.M. Sleep. The difference: Our skeletal muscles are paralyzed during this stage. Babies' are not. They thrash all around while they are ACTUALLY SLEEPING! - Notice what caused this baby to cry out?Was it gas? Reflux pain? Hunger? Watch again! It was that arm flailing around! This happens during "active sleep." This could be why you swear your baby is awake from 3-6am "fighting the swaddle" or struggling with gas. It's just a very light stage of sleep, and they are so ACTIVE! - But...What do you do with this information? First: Stop, Wait and Observe for 30-60 seconds (maybe 2-5 minutes for older babies). That grunting or crying could just be a light stage of sleep. Need help beyond that? Our online courses and resources give you step-by-step instructions to help your little one back to sleep if she really is awake. We are here for you. Just click that link in bio. - Tag a new parent. This is valuable information. ❤️ Any mamas out there who have saved themselves an unnecessary waking by using a short "la pause"?
Remember our goals from class:
- To calm a fussy baby
- Read sleepy cues
- Lay a strong foundation for sleep
- LOVE the newborn stage
Those four goals are the criteria to determine success. It’s not about nap length or sticking to a certain schedule. Instead, it's about just laying that healthy foundation while soaking up the newborn stage too.